I really love women. And all that they embody and what makes them tick.
Women have shaped my life and I am proud to be bringing up a little girl who will undoubtedly be my most favourite woman of all.
Don't get me wrong, I love men too! The men I know and love are all top shelf specimens and I feel really fortunate to have them in my life.
I 'get' men and was always a bit of a tomboy growing up. I liked to surf, get up to mischief and wasn't much into hair and make-up etc. so I slotted in quite nicely with the male persuasion and found them easier to relate to.
I think I also garnered quite a bit of confidence being around guys a lot. They didn't question their worth and if they felt unsure about something, they certainly didn't let on. They just tried anything. Acted first and thought later so there was no second guessing themselves. That fearlessness rubbed off on me and I always did what I wanted and spoke my mind just like my guy friends which was not always met with the same acceptance.
As the years have rolled on, I have lost some of that and I don't believe it's just because I'm older and wiser. I think I lost bits of myself along the way with each new experience and each new decision that had to be made....I became a lot more....for want of a better word...careful.
So back to the women in my life...
They are my family and they are friends and colleagues. And it's only since around my mid 20's that I realised...Not only are the women in my life beyond precious but they are people I. Can. Just. Not. Do. Without.
They amaze me, inspire me, encourage me, love me, hold me, listen to me, cherish me, make me laugh, make me cry and make me glad that I am one of them.
You see, I think women are the most amazing creatures on earth.
We can grow humans inside of us.
We make the food to feed these mini humans.
We can cry at the drop of a hat even if it's for a picture, a person we will never know, a line in a song, an old photograph or the injustice on the news.
We can hold a child on one hip while talking on the phone to our mate and placing an order on the internet....all. at. the. same. time!
We FEEL things. Whether we get a woo woo feeling of something not quite right with our sister or friend, so we call them and lo and behold, they needed to talk! Or we run to the room of our child as we just felt they might be cold and so pull a blanket up over them as they sleep.
We can laugh and laugh to the point of hysteria at the smallest things. Even to the point of wetting our pants but still we keep on laughing as we will not let go of the joy we are currently feeling (plus most of us are manically tired) 😉
We can think ahead and organise our life and the lives of those around us for the next year or so (we don't always do this but we could if we wanted to!)
We know the preferred brand of ANYTHING to buy our loved ones as well as their preferred food/clothing/toy/tv show/music/book/drink/mug/hat/shoes/movie/song/holiday destination......
So who cares if we don't know (stereotype alert!) the exact direction of our car in the shopping centre car park? Or if looking at google maps the right way around is classed as an achievement? We are too busy thinking about the next 3 meals we have to cook, what to send our aunt for her birthday and possibly how to achieve world peace.
Who cares if we analyse things to the point of madness only to second guess ourselves and start all over again? We are a very thorough bunch!
Who cares if we are never quite happy with our appearance, our weight, our career, our achievements...surely that means we just aspire to greatness in every avenue of life? 😉
Who cares if we can be unstable, hormone imbalanced, swinging temperamental crazies? If our reproductive hormones weren't constantly fluctuating wouldn't that mean we couldn't grow us a human if we wanted to? Or search our souls and make some major changes once a month just to feel right again?
Ok...but now for the bone to pick with the female race....
So we are these indisputably amazing beings with so much to offer everyone around us and we find it quite hard to like or even love ourselves.
We also judge ourselves and others too harshly which I think is our biggest fault.
I deal with women all day, every day in my business and the most common thread of concern is a lack of confidence in ourselves and our choices....and also how we talk about ourselves.
And here's some more to add to the complexity of us women -
I think maybe that a lot of us can be...don't shoot the messenger here...control freaks. Yep. Control issues are common in the female psyche.
And so when something negative happens that is outside of our control (spoiler alert: that's pretty much EVERYTHING) we first react and then we also.....judge. Whether we are judging ourselves or others...this seems to be the knee jerk reaction. That's an exhausting and unnecessary cycle to be in don't you think?
So to all the women reading this:
I would like to point out that you are the most amazing, incredible, fabulous, multi-tasking, caring, loving, all seeing being but you have to learn to treat yourself with the love and respect you deserve as so many women before you have fought to get you here.
Nothing has been as easy for a woman as it has been for a man and that is just birth lottery but I believe that is what makes us so great. We strive, we conquer our own boundaries, we love, we break and we have most definitely come out on top as far as lottery stakes go.
If you doubt your decisions or yourself, please work on that and be confident in the fact that no matter where you are placed in your family whether it's daughter, mother, aunt, friend, sister, I bet you are the glue holding the family or friendship circle together.
That in itself is irreplaceable and if you were looking at you from where I am, you would love everything about you.
The best way to learn to love yourself more, is spend some time with yourself with loving thoughts. I think it's hard to just sit down and look at ourselves and say I love you to the mirror but having time set aside morning and night and putting some of that love that is going into everyone else back into you is a very good idea.
There are lots of ways to give back to yourself but you may not be able to get a massage/pedicure/girls weekend/yoga class in on a daily basis! That's why you need to create a routine at home so that love is channelled towards you, by you, daily. Do this in the ways you know fill your cup and fit them in every day and then things like a massage/pedicure/girls night/yoga class will just be a lovely extra top-up.
Give yourself more time to fall in love with yourself. After all, you will be by your own side for the rest of your life so nurturing that relationship is pretty important!
And I know you have so many dreams and desires and you are holding so much up on your shoulders right now so that's why the Like A Boss blend was born. Another blend that has helped me own things and find more courage to speak out and set my life up in a way that suits me more is Courage blend. This blend helps to balance the solar plexus chakra and enhances assimilation of ideas and enhances our strength, self esteem and self confidence. And Female blend is another awesome blend for us women. It help us feel more balanced in general especially around our hormonal cycle helping us feel less moody and less 'all over the place!'
For International Women's Day you can get these three blends in a pack with the added bonus of receiving the Female blend completely FREE! Yep! How lucky are you? ;) Grab this special pack which is only available in the store for one week only HERE
These three blends have helped so much with my 'womanly ways' and I know these blends can change things for you too. As a Female, you have to own things Like A Boss and I know this takes Courage. But also asking for help is ok too and that's what this is all about.
You've Got This,
Alisha x