I absolutely love writing my personal blog for a Sunday. I get to write what is in my head but I also try and think about what might be relevant for you to read...something that my help or inspire...

Today was supposed to be my Switzerland blog as many of you wanted a trip break down like I did for Japan - where I went, what I did and where I stayed...and that's still coming (promise!)

But in true ADHD style, it got to Saturday and I still hadn't written a word so I started beating myself up...and the self talk went like this:

"Why do I leave things until the last minute?"

"Why don't I have more self discipline"

"Why am I putting off what I love doing?"

When I start hearing this self talk for too long I eventually remember to turn it around. I took my Self Love blend and sat for a minute waiting for new thoughts to drop in.

Self compassion swooped in -

"You've had a big week"

"You're still catching up on your work after being away"

"You find it easier to get it done when the deadline is closer..."

And then because I gave myself some time and space, a new thought dropped in - "Maybe for this week, you'll be more helpful and inspiring by writing about the hard stuff?"

I went to breakfast yesterday with a friend I hadn't caught up with in about a year so we had much to catch up on.

I sat down (late!) apologising for my lateness and explaining that my daughter was home with a sore throat and I had been seeing to her before dashing off and she said: 'Don't apologise! That's what we are here for!" And so straight away we launched into the hard stuff.

For 2 hours, we shared what had been going wrong, what we were struggling with (hormones, kids, parenting) and we laughed and enjoyed every minute of it. I was so grateful that neither of us were the type of person who had to talk about all the stuff that we were getting right and doing well.

I mean it's important to give ourselves credit, sure...but we really need to be airing and sharing the stuff that sits on our chest. That stuff needs to be moved and go somewhere for it to get any better. And whether we use our therapist or our friends (I use both!) talking about what we are finding hard, even if there is no solution, is sooooo good for us.

So this is a check in to make sure you've shared the hard stuff lately? I'll leave some of my hard stuff below and feel free to leave a comment below to get yourself started and then please ring a friend and keep going!

1. I'm finding it hard to get back into my healthy routines post holidays and feeling guilty (or ashamed?) because of this...
2. I am finding it hard to find the line between controlling and guiding when it comes to parenting my teens
3. I feel really unmotivated and that's making me feel anxious and that makes me more unmotivated and so them more anxious...
4. I'm worried about work...

Keep sharing the hard stuff, be gentle with yourself and know you are exactly where you are supposed to be right now,

Alisha x

I absolutely love writing my personal blog for a Sunday. I get to write what is in my head but I also try and think about what might be relevant for you to read...something that my help or inspire...

Today was supposed to be my Switzerland blog as many of you wanted a trip break down like I did for Japan - where I went, what I did and where I stayed...and that's still coming (promise!)

But in true ADHD style, it got to Saturday and I still hadn't written a word so I started beating myself up...and the self talk went like this:

"Why do I leave things until the last minute?"

"Why don't I have more self discipline"

"Why am I putting off what I love doing?"

When I start hearing this self talk for too long I eventually remember to turn it around. I took my Self Love blend and sat for a minute waiting for new thoughts to drop in.

Self compassion swooped in -

"You've had a big week"

"You're still catching up on your work after being away"

"You find it easier to get it done when the deadline is closer..."

And then because I gave myself some time and space, a new thought dropped in - "Maybe for this week, you'll be more helpful and inspiring by writing about the hard stuff?"

I went to breakfast yesterday with a friend I hadn't caught up with in about a year so we had much to catch up on.

I sat down (late!) apologising for my lateness and explaining that my daughter was home with a sore throat and I had been seeing to her before dashing off and she said: 'Don't apologise! That's what we are here for!" And so straight away we launched into the hard stuff.

For 2 hours, we shared what had been going wrong, what we were struggling with (hormones, kids, parenting) and we laughed and enjoyed every minute of it. I was so grateful that neither of us were the type of person who had to talk about all the stuff that we were getting right and doing well.

I mean it's important to give ourselves credit, sure...but we really need to be airing and sharing the stuff that sits on our chest. That stuff needs to be moved and go somewhere for it to get any better. And whether we use our therapist or our friends (I use both!) talking about what we are finding hard, even if there is no solution, is sooooo good for us.

So this is a check in to make sure you've shared the hard stuff lately? I'll leave some of my hard stuff below and feel free to leave a comment below to get yourself started and then please ring a friend and keep going!

1. I'm finding it hard to get back into my healthy routines post holidays and feeling guilty (or ashamed?) because of this...
2. I am finding it hard to find the line between controlling and guiding when it comes to parenting my teens
3. I feel really unmotivated and that's making me feel anxious and that makes me more unmotivated and so them more anxious...
4. I'm worried about work...

Keep sharing the hard stuff, be gentle with yourself and know you are exactly where you are supposed to be right now,

Alisha x