I have blogged about this before but I'm doing it again because - Real Rocks.
Real to me, is just being open and honest about who you are and what you are.
In return for this luxury, you are no longer allowed to judge, ridicule or gossip about what may or may not be cool, normal or the 'done' thing by others.Being all Judge Judy seems to be on the rise thanks to the internet and social media. It's much easier to judge and ridicule from behind a screen.
People get confused about what's best for them and I understand that as there is sooooo much information out there now....
And holding staunchly onto your beliefs about what will make you healthier, whether to vaccinate or not, help you lose weight, get rid of your allergies, clear your skin, heal your gut and whiten your teeth is fine - but don't wear your beliefs like an armour.
Don't use them as a weapon against those who are not on your track.
Just quietly and determinedly go about YOUR journey.
You know what I think is the healthiest thing of all?
Gratitude heals the heart.
I am grateful for all my hard years (and like everyone else, there have been many!) as it's taught me to be real at times when it would be much easier to hide and pretend all was rosy.
Blogging has helped bring this out in me, as I believe that we all need to read about others 'being real' to understand that it's not just 'us' that is having a hard time.
It's not just us that struggles and it's not just us that messes up.
I will always support and have time for real people and frankly my interest in people who only like portraying the rosy side of life is nil.
Whether it's because I am a mum, whether it's because I have struggled with my physical and emotional health a lot or whether it's because I give so many less fucks in my 40th decade, I'm just glad I have a forum to be real for others.
So here's my REAL list:
I was on anti-depressants in 2013 for 8 months while I dealt with the fall out of post natal depression and a health scare for my then 10 month old son. That's okay.
I'm overweight. I'm always working on it. That's okay.
Sometimes I don't choose health, sometimes I eat things I shouldn't. That's okay.
I yell at my kids sometimes. That's okay.
My kids have too much screen time some days. That's okay.
Sometimes I watch too much TV at night while eating my dinner on the couch because I'm too exhausted to sit at the table and talk to my husband and kids. That's okay.
My house seems to always be messy even though I get it cleaned by someone else once a week. That's okay.
I shy away from other people's dramas and withdraw my help now and then because I simply can't fit any more in. That's okay.
I don't get along with my family members all the time. I'm a bit outspoken and have a temper and it can cause rifts. That's okay.
I worry about how much I share of myself and my family on my socials and blog but I keep going. That's okay.
I'm not for everyone and that's okay
I am me.
So what I want you guys to take away from reading this blog is that there really is nothing more liberating than getting real.
I don't mean that you should start posting your fights and personal messiness all over the internet - but talk to people. Tell them how it really is and know that it's okay to do that. Most likely it will help them share as well.
This goes hand in hand with allowing others to be real and keeping them safe while they're at it. Don't judge. Don't ridicule. Be gentle. Watch your kids emulate this, as kids learn from what they see.
Let's not teach our kids to shoot down other's beliefs, opinions, ideals or bravery for being real.
Let's cut the bullshit and the fakeness, it does everyone the world of good.
If you feel like you need support getting more real with yourself and others or perhaps need help with not judging others if their beliefs don't align with yours, I highly recommend looking at my Relationship Pack which gives you tools to work on the relationship you have with yourself which then flows into better relationships with others.
I care about people.
I love people.
I want people to see how REAL we all are and how beautiful that is.
Yours in Realness,Alisha x