I recently had a very dear friend lose their mum to cancer and it really rocked me.
My heart was a bit broken by not being able to comfort her in person. Not being there to give her a big hug and just silently be there for her to lean against or make her a zillion cups of tea.
When I feel a bit helpless like this, I take my flower essences* and I write whatever I feel like writing which helps me process my feelings a bit better. I have lost some very special people in my life in the past and often the death of someone near or dear to you can bring up all those feelings of loss again. Whether we lose someone due to death or even if we just suffer from a relationship ending, loss is a very powerful feeling and has many emotions attached to it. They should be supported and honoured as they surface which really does help your transition through this time and will help lessen the physical impact that stored powerful emotions can have on the body.
Jess Ainscough, the Wellness Warrior also died from cancer recently and so feelings of grief and loss were really brought to the fore in my health community and I just wanted to share this poem which I wrote the week all this was going on (same week as my friend's mum passed)
I know that all of us go through periods of loss in our lives so this poem is for you if you need it.
There's a certain kind of breeze where I can sometimes smell your scent
There's a certain kind of recall flashing me pictures of time we spent
There's a certain kind of crowd where I hear you calling my name
There's a certain kind of feeling where I suddenly don't feel the same
There's a certain kind of memory that clutches at my chest
There's a certain kind of dream that reminds me what I loved best
There's a certain kind of pause in which I fall into
There's a certain kind of wanting that's only filled by you
There's a certain kind of love that can never be replaced
There's a certain stretch of time that now feels like a waste
There's a certain kind of realisation that you're no longer here
There's a certain kind of knowing that's now no longer clear
There's a certainty in a love that now spans age and time
There's a certainty of relief that you are me, I am you, we are mine.
To read a great blog on the death of Jess Ainscough by her good friend Tara Bliss click HERE
Honour your feelings.
Honour who you have lost.
*The best flower essence blends for dealing with emotions of loss are Help Blend (take as often as needed when experiencing initial stages of shock and for feeling out of control, anxious or hit with grief) and Let it Go Blend (to help later when you are needing to let go of some of the grief, confusion and sadness after relationships end)
Yours in Health,
This blog is dedicated to my beautiful friend Karri-May xxx