Getting Lost, Getting Back on Track and Finding My 'Why'

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August 29, 2015

Recently I was asked a question at a blogging conference which has turned out to be the most important question I have been asked all year. It was ‘What is Your WHY?’ as in what is my ‘Why’ or purpose when it comes to blogging….

I have thought and thought on it and on my morning walk today, it came to me.

My 'Why' is to support YOU.

That might sound vague and simplistic but it's truly not.  What I know is this: I have the knowledge, platform and writing skills to discuss topics of physical health, emotional health, child rearing, being a healer, being broken, being mended, motivation, inspiration and being real with my human-ness.

I also know I'm a helper and I LOVE to help. I have always been a helper growing up, within my family and friendship circles, in my chosen profession and now my new platform here online.

Have you heard of the saying 'be aware of the advice you give, as it's also the advice you need to hear'? I am constantly aware of this. Everything I give out, needs also to come back to me.

So yes, my 'WHY' is to support you and in doing so I am supporting myself. So thankyou.

As I said, I came to this conclusion this morning and what a morning it was. The lessons came in thick and fast. It was like I woke up in a big old metaphor and now I want to share it as it may 'help' you. I will format writing about my morning into categories like this - thought/action/lesson.

I guess you will be most helped by the lesson category if you want to just read those bits? Although we all know that the info that gets us to the lesson is the most relatable part of all.  

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My Morning of Metaphors and Lessons

 

Thought 1: Why am I still overweight? Why does it bother me? Why am I steadfastly hanging onto this issue?

Action I did some reading and further pondering and even pulled some Insight cards. I was shown signs for spreading your message, accepting what is and keep going.

LessonI keep getting shown that as uncomfortable as I am with my weight, it is there.

It needs to be there or it wouldn't be. It's as simple as that.

And while it is there I need to learn from it. It's not the weight that is the issue, it's only there to create a focus on what I need to do to learn about myself and to grow.

I believe there are so many of us that have trouble asking for help and so our physical body eventually asks for us.

It might get sick, it might get underweight, it might get overweight, it might show rashes and blotches on the skin. It's being the voice for us when our other voice is just not piping up. For me, it's been about struggling with trauma, motherhood and losing who I once was. For someone who liked to control and steer their life, this has been hard and I'm still working out how to look after myself properly and nourish and give myself everything I need in this new stage of my life. That is why I am trying my very best to help others (you!) do this at the same time.

 

Thought 2. I wanted to walk

Action I texted my walking partner if she was up for a walk but she was in client meetings all day and couldn't make it. I got the kids ready for daycare dressed as book characters (for book week this week) and said my goodbyes to Belle from Beauty and the Beast and to a random pirate from Peter Pan and went off to do my walk...

LessonI really was supposed to be alone on this walk today (as you will read). Saying goodbye in pirate speak is a little difficult.  

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**A quick explanation about my walk is needed now before my next thought/action/lesson

My walk is very cherished and done often (at least 3 times a week, often more, and I've been doing it for the last 3 years). This walk is near my house and it's through bushland called the Seven Hills Bushland Reserve. I'm only 8km from the city centre of Brisbane and when I moved to this house 3 years ago, I couldn't believe my luck at having this nearby. I have made use of this walk a lot. It got me through dark days during my post natal depression. It has helped me clear my head so many times and it has helped me create so much content for my work (I think a lot while I walk). This walk also introduced bush walking to my little kids which they have loved ever since. This walk has many many tracks joining it from many different access points and it's not really signed very well so you really have to know where you are going. I do a 4km circuit with many twists and turns, up hills and down hills and even across bridges! My walking partners often joke that if they weren't with me, they would most definitely get lost! Recently there have been signs of closures on some of the tracks but (in my very typical fashion) I have ignored them and there has never been anything blocking my way and it's all been fine....until....  

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Thought 3: Halfway through my walk I reach a clearing and see blackened grass and trees. Oh! They have been burning the bushland! That must be why they have had signs up as they have been doing controlled burns for bush regeneration.

Action Continued walking but it had got me thinking about the parallels between 'burning' and 'regeneration'

LessonJust like the bush can be brought back to life, greener and stronger after being consumed by fire, so can we... metaphorically speaking. lately, I had been getting so annoyed by the amount of illness me and the kids had been through this winter and had been talking about it to my energy healer. She describes sickness and infections as 'burning off the dross'. Sometimes we need to get fevers, snotty noses, coughs and 'burning' in our ears, tonsils and whatever else, to burn off and expel old stagnant energy and make way for the new energy coming our way. As frustrating as our downtime can be sometimes, it's all happening for a reason. So next time your body appears to be failing you, don't forget that it might just be time for you to burn off the dross.

 

Thought 4. I think I'm lost....How could I be lost? I have walked this track hundreds of times....Where am I? Why do the paths look all different? Which way do I go next? This way or that way?  

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Action The paths were all different as not only had there been burning going on but there had been big old trucks widening and smoothing the tracks making everything appear completely different. Where there had once been narrow rocky paths, there were now wide flattened paths and I was completely disorientated. Did I calmly retrace my steps? No. I. Did. Not. I felt frustrated and sad and angry and bewildered. So I ran.

I ran. I ran and I ran. I ran so hard and fast that I started to cry and then I yelled and then I cried some more because I just needed to let it out. I just needed my voice back. I needed to let out all the crap I had been holding in just to cope with the last few months. I didn't care where I was running to and where I would end up. I just ran. I ran until my bra strap broke and then I laughed and I laughed and I laughed. Because who breaks a bra strap while they are running? Me 🙂

LessonWe have to allow the signs that the universe sends to us to be our guide. We need to stop trying to control things and follow the path willingly and happily. This path will keep changing because life is always changing and if you are giving yourself a hard time about who you were or what you think you were five minutes ago, that's just not being very fair. All that matters is who you are in this very moment and whether you are doing your best in this moment and are prepared to just keep getting back on track. And always, always laugh at yourself because the moment this all becomes too serious is the moment you will stop having fun in life.  

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me and my broken bra strap!

I truly hope you got something out of reading this just as I got something out of writing it and I really want to thank you for being here and allowing me to support you (and me) in whatever way I can. Thanks for being my why.

 

Yours in Health,

 

Alisha x

Ps. If you like this blog you might also like Being Pointed in The Right Direction and One Foot in Front of the Other


29 Responses

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

September 21, 2015

This is so appropriate for me right now. Thanks so much for sharing x

Amanda
Amanda

September 10, 2015

Thank you for sharing .
This post really resonates with me , my hands are buzzing while reading . You definitely wrote this for me and you .

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

September 11, 2015

So glad Amanda, thanks for letting me know x

Louise
Louise

September 19, 2015

Hi Alisha, I read your blog a few days ago and I have been pondering it ever since…it has a lot of meaning for me right now, so thank you for sharing with clarity and honesty.

I read this quote today and thought l would share it with you.
With love
Louise

How to get there:
Go to the end of the path until you get to the gate.
Go through the gate and head straight out towards the horizon.

Keep going towards the horizon.

Sit down and have a rest every now and again,

But keep on going, just keep on with it.

Keep on going as far as you can.

That’s how you get there.
Michael Leunig

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

September 02, 2015

Thanks Jasmine, hope you are feeling more balanced now too x

Candy
Candy

September 07, 2015

Namaste and thank you, I needed to read this tonight xx

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

September 01, 2015

Thanks Bek, and yep, so blessed to have this in walking distance from my house, in a city!! :)

jasmine
jasmine

September 02, 2015

I hear you… I think the intensity of all this has been amplified by the new season and by that full moon in pisces. It has really shaken me up a lot too. Very similar themes. Sending my love.

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 31, 2015

I have been known to question that too Anna and just reminding yourself that everything is happening for a reason is a great help. Glad you enjoyed the post :)

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 31, 2015

I’m very glad for that Sonia xx

Author Bek Mugridge
Author Bek Mugridge

September 01, 2015

Your so inspiring Alisha.
I love your walk trail!!!

Anna
Anna

August 30, 2015

So this morning I had a convo with the other half an he said you eat Organic have chemical free home you do all this natural healing an your the sickest you have ever been.. An he is right … But my response was imagine how sick I could potentially be if I wasn’t doing all of those good things…hmmm.. So I’m hearing you great post Alisha resonated with me right now… So thank you :)

Sonia @ Natural New Age Mum
Sonia @ Natural New Age Mum

August 30, 2015

You know how much I love this. Your insights and wisdom around this have been a big inspiration to me. xxx

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 29, 2015

Oh Thankyou Mel, beautiful feedback x

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 29, 2015

Glad to ‘help’ Jan ;) x

Julie Marchetti
Julie Marchetti

August 29, 2015

As someone who is battling weight and a complementary therapist at the same time, I too have battled against the thoughts of “what is going on….why….” Your blog has given me insight….it is because it is. and it is ok. I do need to ask for help….triple diploma and post grad reflexology maternity certificate and I am tired….by body and my weight is calling out for help. Thankyou.

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 29, 2015

I’m glad I shed some light on things for you Julie and I hope your journey is amazing! x

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 29, 2015

Thankyou Tash x

Jan Lance
Jan Lance

August 29, 2015

Thanks so much Alisha for sharing that I really needed this today.

Tash
Tash

August 29, 2015

wow, I feel that you just put down in words what’s been floating inside my head!
Just waiting for that moment when things start falling into place… I think I have put myself on the right path. I hope you are too. ❤️

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 29, 2015

Thankyou so much, I love that my honesty reaches people like you

Mel
Mel

August 29, 2015

Big share that! Thank you for reminding us to remember ourselves ☺️ I read in earnest, just about started crying and then much laughter. These are the moments most of us women consider ourselves weak…but hell no, not you! Acknowledge a learning and keep on keeping on!
Love it!

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 29, 2015

Thanks for your support Georgia! Xx

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 29, 2015

Thanks Lisa x

Lisa
Lisa

August 29, 2015

You really are amazing Alisha. Thanks so much for sharing. I greatly admire your honesty. L xx

Nadene
Nadene

August 29, 2015

And so this is officially the best blog post I have ever ever read.
Thanks for keeping it real.
Your awesome Alisha

naughtynaturopathmum
naughtynaturopathmum

August 29, 2015

And that was officially the best comment I’ve had on a blog Thanks Nadene x

Lisa Munro
Lisa Munro

August 29, 2015

Thanks for sharing Alisha :)

Georgia O'Shea
Georgia O'Shea

August 29, 2015

Thank you for your honesty you crazy, beautiful, normal, funny, inspiring woman/girl/mother/daughter!

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